Skip to main content

News & Events

Newsroom

Personal Connections: A Blueprint for Building Positive Relationships

Personal Connections: A Blueprint for Building Positive Relationships

Humans aren’t meant to be alone. We’re wired to be together and designed to grow, love and learn with each other. Relationships, whether they are familial, romantic or platonic, allow us to live a well-rounded and happy life. 

We all want our relationships to be positive in our lives, but how do we effectively learn to build these positive and enriching relationships? Here are eight ways:

 

1. Celebrate diversity.

No one is exactly the same. If we were, life would be dreadfully boring. Effective relationship builders realize that not everyone has the same opinions, comes from the same background or has the same goals in life. But it’s these differences that create and foster some of the strongest bonds between individuals. Step out of your comfort zone, ask questions, get to know someone different than you. You might be surprised by how much this can enrich your life. 

 

2. Open your gates to trust.

Let people in. The best relationships are built upon mutual trust and respect. It’s okay to have your guard up, but if you’re too defensive, it can push people away. Place focus on your friendships and partnerships—both old and new—and on strengthening trust with each other. When two people in a relationship have trust for one another, the relationship will continue to thrive. 

 

3. Actively listen.

For some people, talking comes naturally. For others, not so much. If you’re one of those that has more to say than most, practice listening to help you to slow down and also make others feel valued. Asking questions, repeating back comments and showing genuine interest in what someone is saying will show them how much you care. When you start listening, you learn what you’ve missed.

 

4. Look for social cues.

Relationships aren’t just about trust and listening. Attention to even minor details builds relationships. For example, do you notice how a friend’s or coworker’s body language can tell you if they're having a good or bad day? Pick up on nonverbal cues and be sensitive to what they’re telling you without verbally spelling it out.This creates validation in the other person and allows ties to be strengthened between the two of you. 

 

5. Read the room.

Everyone has different personalities—like, some people are extroverts, others not so much.. We’re all different, but it can be easy to assume that people respond to the same stimuli as you. For the best relationships, read others’ personalities and respond in a complementary way. Of course, be yourself, but center on the part of yourself that best fits the situation. 

 

6. Give the phone a rest and recharge.

It seems that as technology continues to advance, we seem to shift our focus. This can be detrimental if you’re trying to build relationships with others. Pay attention to what’s going on right now and take a break from Angry Birds, you’ll knock down the tower later. By giving people your full attention, you will strengthen the bonds between you. 

 

7. Practice empathy.

When it comes to relationships, practice the golden rule: “Treat others as you would like to be treated.” We’re taught this lesson from a very early age, and actively putting empathy into play allows you to think about how you would feel in someone else’s shoes. If someone feels like you are fully with them in their situation, they will be grateful and your relationship will flourish.

 

8. Give up your time.

It’s no secret that everyone is busy and can lose track of how valuable our time is. Time is a gift, and giving people your time is a valuable way to build effective, positive relationships. Take time to concentrate on others, support them and help them in their challenges. When you give your time to others, that’s going to fill your bucket as much as it will theirs. 

Building strong, positive relationships helps to promote living a healthy lifestyle. These tips can help promote a healthy, effective relationship with yourself, as well as the people in your life.

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

Dear Clients & Supporters,

As you may have heard, our office in Pueblo was maliciously vandalized by an unidentified gunman, just after midnight on the evening of June 2nd.

Footage from our security cameras shows an initially calm scene, before what appears to be a man walking by nonchalantly, hands tucked in pockets, suddenly stopping and turning to withdraw a firearm. The gunman then starts dashing, firing shot after shot directly at our storefront.

This person and their weapon have caused immense harm. Financially, the estimated damage exceeds $25,000. The same bullets that shattered glass and pierced through walls have wounded our hearts. However, the cost of this emotional damage cannot be measured in dollars. If there is a silver lining, it’s that nobody was physically hurt - or worse. For that, we’re eternally grateful.

To be clear, this individual and this destructive act, are not linked to the Black Lives Matter movement or protests of any kind. Unfortunately, we believe this anger to be rooted locally in a conflict between a tenant and their disgruntled clients.

In the wake of the ongoing pandemic and riots spurred by civil unrest nationwide, we know things are uncomfortable right now. We know people are upset and hurting. We're hurting too.

As much as it pains us to board up these windows and doors and close our building, we have no other choice but to do so until we can get them fixed. Despite our office being closed, rest assured, we are still working.

While the need for our services grows, so does our need for your support. In fact, we need you now more than ever. Whether it's time or a monetary donation, anything you can do to help us continue promoting healthy, vibrant neighborhoods across Southern Colorado is not only sincerely appreciated; it's vital to actualizing our mutual goals as a community. You can make your contribution, securely and conveniently online at https://nwsoco.org/how-to-help/donate.html or to submit interest in volunteering please visit https://nwsoco.org/how-to-help/volunteer.html.

We want you to know, we will be back, and we will continue to fight for a better Southern Colorado. To get there, more of us need to change. Amidst these changes, one thing will remain certain: our commitment to serving you and the entire Southern Colorado community.

The pain we feel now will pass, just like the time we have with those we love. Remember to take care of each other. If this unprecedented time has taught us anything, it’s that we need each other more than we could have ever known.


SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

A Message about Our Services in Light of Coronavirus (COVID-19) – UPDATED 06/09/2020

NeighborWorks Southern Colorado cares about the health and safety of our customers, staff, and community partners. Out of an abundance of caution, we are suspending in-person workshops and counseling appointments temporarily. We will continue to provide homebuyer education and counseling services virtually, and you can reach our employees by phone or email. We will not be receiving visitors to our office until further notice.

We are in the process of contacting customers registered for our Homebuyer Education Workshops or scheduled for an in-person counseling appointment to make other arrangements. If you need to reach us, please call (719) 544-8078.

We are monitoring the news closely and taking advantage of this time to do updates and upgrades to our building to better serve you when we re-open; we will post updates about our services to this website. Thank you for choosing NeighborWorks Southern Colorado as your trusted partner and first choice for homebuyer resources in Southern Colorado.

06/09/2020

Please take precautionary measures... Be safe and stay healthy

Our Impact in 2019

  • Attended Group & Online Classes

    1154

  • New Homeowners

    641

  • Dollars Invested Into Communities

    125,400,000

  • Dollars in Mortgage Loans Originated

    2,700,000

  • Dollars in Small Business Lending

    150,000

  • Homes Built & Sold

    5

© 2020 NeighborWorks Southern Colorado

Powered by Firespring